As someone that's been on a good number of dates and had reasonable success, something I've thought about in retrospect: Date yourself and invite others along.

As someone that's been on a good number of dates and had reasonable success, something I've thought about in retrospect: Date yourself and invite others along. Find things YOU want to do / go to places you'd like to go, schedule it in your calendar and invite potential mates along or join a group of others e.g. a hiking group. It's also a marathon, not a sprint, and dating is like Leetcode, the more you do it the better you get over time. Try different things, try the apps, speed dating, grab a drink at a hotel bar, join groups of people, build a network, pay for a coach... The main thing is you try things and learn. Yes it's effort, yes it costs money, yes you may need to go to the gym and work on yourself, but try to enjoy the process. Also, don't subscribe to limiting beliefs and don't go marrying the first person you meet just because you think you can't meet anyone else. There are literally millions of people out there, and there are plenty of bald short guys that do just fine. Lastly, it's totally OK to have standards - go for what you want and adjust and learn, and not everyone you like is going to reciprocate. The main thing is that you make an effort.