>I came to realise at almost 35 that I was an asshole to my parents for a long part of my life. Two years ago, I helped my mother die (I was then still thirty-

>I came to realise at almost 35 that I was an asshole to my parents for a long part of my life. Two years ago, I helped my mother die (I was then still thirty-something, she was sixty). In such vulnerable situations, the honesty between our coupling (dying mother to mortal son) left us in a constant stream of mostly-happy tears. Hearing your mother, on her months-away deathbed, describe you as "a bully, absolutely; sometimes even an asshole. But I love that you mostly bullied assholes, even your most-difficult brother (you could always humiliate him when he NEEDED it) and even me, sometimes, when I was acting out." RIP, Mom; I miss You immensely, even these two years later, but am so glad we were able to lessen the guilt and share in being human. >We are one weird species, is my conclusion. Wishing you well in your futures.