I agree with everything in your first comment. But want to extra agree that "pause" is really important. It's impossible to manage a bunch of matches. Focus on

I agree with everything in your first comment. But want to extra agree that "pause" is really important. It's impossible to manage a bunch of matches. Focus on one or two and move those along or cut them loose if they're not doing the same. Your comment about the "No" is probably the hardest of the obvious advice to follow. Casting a wide net just distracts from what you really want - it's hoping for something.