> Don’t wait so long your anger fizzles to complacency or you suppress your emotions into obliteration. “You lose the benefits of anger,” Parrott says. What I

> Don’t wait so long your anger fizzles to complacency or you suppress your emotions into obliteration. “You lose the benefits of anger,” Parrott says. What I will say is that, for me, the most effective decision for my life has been to just move away from sources of anger. To not do anything out of anger, even positive actions, even in cold blood. Call it complacency, but I think if you only do something because you're angry about it, it's not something you should be doing in the first place. Find a better reason, one that makes sense without emotion being the driver. It took me well into my thirties to realize the most common metaphor for suppressing anger was wrong. People say you're bottling up your anger if you don't express it, or at least use it. The idea is that it'll explode eventually if you don't vent it. But a better metaphor would be a fire, which you want to keep contained and starved of oxygen, and if you don't contain it it'll just grow and grow and take on its own life.