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> If you have spoken to more than a half dozen people and everyone is awful, the problem is you. Figure out what you want, rinse, repeat. I am a counter exampl
by mettamage 3y ago
> If you have spoken to more than a half dozen people and everyone is awful, the problem is you. Figure out what you want, rinse, repeat.
I am a counter example. I liked about 1 in 20 chats. It took 300 matches. I took 100 hours to optimize my profile. I went from 5 matches per month to 150 matches per month. It took a long time to get good pictures that women found attractive. I went through 100s of different pictures and gathered a lot of feedback (there are websites).
The problem isn’t me since I am now in an amazing relationship. It’s okay to be a bit picky, as long as you put in a lot of effort yourself.
I agree with the rest.
- Spooky23 3y agoTotally. You have to do you. I probably expressed that poorly. “Problem” was the wrong word! It’s probably better to say you’re not finding what you want… but do you know what that is?
- HaZeust 3y agoIndeed. Especially when learning the lay of the dating apps land, and understanding the lowest-common denominators that the most amount of people would bite on. "Just to look and feel like this, it took a long time"
- oarfish 3y ago> It took a long time to get good pictures that women found attractive. I went through 100s of different pictures and gathered a lot of feedback (there are websites). What exactly does that mean? There's services that "rate your profile"? What do those "good pictures" look like then?
- mettamage 3y agoI wish I could tell you. Every time I upload a picture thinking it is going to be a home run, it would always be a 5 out of 10. Only 5 pictures made it past the 8 out of 10. I used photofeeler.com