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As a man, when I was still in the dating pool, I found aloofness to be a huge turnoff. The thing is, when I show interest in someone, I'd like to see it recipro
by enraged_camel 3y ago
As a man, when I was still in the dating pool, I found aloofness to be a huge turnoff. The thing is, when I show interest in someone, I'd like to see it reciprocated. I doubt I'm the only one who feels that way.
- arketyp 3y agoAs a man, I'm happy to even get a foot in the door. I doubt I'm the only one who feels that way.
- jvanderbot 3y agoSure, everyone plays the game differently. Maybe I'm writing this as a good strategy from a man's perspective because I am one. As in "aloofness as a signal of fitness might work better for men"
- enraged_camel 3y ago>> Sure, everyone plays the game differently. No, that’s the thing: not everyone treats it as a game. For a lot of people it feels more like work and is draining like no game is.
- jvanderbot 3y agoIt's tempting to over analyze the term game. The point of TFA, and my comment, was not to portray dating as a Machiavellian rule driven process. The point of TFA and this comment is that we can understand perfectly normal and beautiful and organic human messiness in interpersonal relationships with game like analogies. That's the point of the term Game Theory. In Game theory, one does not necessarily consciously act as though playing a game, it just so happens that their organic choices are often understood using game analogies. That's why the field is valuable. It wouldn't be a valuable model if everyone could wake up tomorrow and opt out.
- enraged_camel 3y agoI would posit that it’s people who apply game theory to dating are the ones over analyzing things.
- jvanderbot 3y agoThat's true, and supports my point that most don't "play". They just "are"
- 331c8c71 3y agoDating being like work? Its really hard for me to wrap around that idea...
- jvanderbot 3y agoWait until you hear about "marriage"