You try every trick in the book to not let your anger control your actions in the moment - taking deep breaths; counting to 10/20/50; asking for 'time out', etc

You try every trick in the book to not let your anger control your actions in the moment - taking deep breaths; counting to 10/20/50; asking for 'time out', etc. Depending on a whole bunch of variables, some of which are completely out of your control, you may or may not be successful. On those occasions where you're not successful, you come back to your child later and share that you're sorry you behaved the way you did, that you wished you'd handled it differently, and that you commit to trying to do better in the future. Of course this assumes the child is of an age where this conversation makes some semblance of sense to them. I'd argue that age is younger than most people give kids credit for.