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Sounds like the team you were in back then was a bit dysfunctional but if you feel rage and shame over SW bugs in your codebase you need to address that first a
by zwieback 3y ago
Sounds like the team you were in back then was a bit dysfunctional but if you feel rage and shame over SW bugs in your codebase you need to address that first as it's a disproportional reaction to normal things happening in programming. Speaking up immediately but calmly when you get blamed for something you didn't do would be a good skill to acquire.
- parkhi 3y agoI agree with that I need to work on the skill of speaking up, however I feel I didn't do it here as I was burntout with some stressful situations at home like death of a family member and something like that life can throw again where I might not be very good at defending myself at work situations and succumb to people's insensitive behaviour around me. I believe I felt shame due the to insensitive comments in meeting like 'this is so basic' , 'if I was in this place I would have felt really bad about my work quality ' etc. I kind of internalised the shame thrown towards me.