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Just me? I thought the article was terrible. Most of the solutions discussed involve not being angry but being motivated. Did i miss something?

dwighttk 3y ago
>Anger is selfish (road rage) and selfless (protesting a war half a world away). Thought that was a pretty weak example of selfless… couldn’t be something happening in front of you?
from-nibly 3y ago
Yeah the solutions were like, "when you're angry, don't be"
- dr_dshiv 3y ago
  But maybe people with anger issues don’t want to read an article entitled “anger has minimal functional value in the modern world.” Although, I’ve found that anger can be an effective way of dealing with certain angry people (not most!). Some people get calm when others are angry but don’t notice it in themselves. It’s frustrating though, because I hate getting angry. I very rarely get angry at my kids and I usually signal (“I don’t want to get angry… I’m starting to get angry”). So even when anger is functional for me, I really don’t like how it cognitively disrupts me.
Xeyz0r 3y ago
If anger is expressed in a healthy and constructive way, it can be a powerful force for good. However, if anger is expressed in an unhealthy and destructive way, it can have serious consequences. Anger can motivate us to take action and make changes but uncontrolled anger can lead to violence and aggression
kelseyfrog 3y ago
I thought it was terrible too. The author didn't state their assumptions and didn't address the social norms surrounding anger. Anger is, at least where I live, not a socially acceptable emotion to express. This belief is the core of the article, and I imagine that a lot of folks reading this are thinking, "That's right it's not," "There's always a reason not to be angry," &c. However, anger is also a completely valid emotion - we've all experienced anger. My point is that we have no socially acceptable outlets for anger. We have to mask, sublimate, redirect, suppress, or simply not be angry for basically our entire lives. This article is a product of that belief. I run a sporadic event with a group of friends called "Scream at the Moon Night". On a full moon we go out to an open field and I run through a list of prompts that all ask for a screaming response. We scream out all that pent up anger and once we're done we take a seat and just talk. It's cathartic. I've had moms take their kids and scream about bullies. People have screamed about work, ex's, life struggles, everything. It's great, but the take away is that this is so outside the social norms that I wouldn't blame you if you thought it was weird. There isn't space to do this socially, I had to make it.

dwighttk 3y ago

>Anger is selfish (road rage) and selfless (protesting a war half a world away). Thought that was a pretty weak example of selfless… couldn’t be something happening in front of you?

from-nibly 3y ago

Yeah the solutions were like, "when you're angry, don't be"

dr_dshiv 3y ago
But maybe people with anger issues don’t want to read an article entitled “anger has minimal functional value in the modern world.” Although, I’ve found that anger can be an effective way of dealing with certain angry people (not most!). Some people get calm when others are angry but don’t notice it in themselves. It’s frustrating though, because I hate getting angry. I very rarely get angry at my kids and I usually signal (“I don’t want to get angry… I’m starting to get angry”). So even when anger is functional for me, I really don’t like how it cognitively disrupts me.

Xeyz0r 3y ago

If anger is expressed in a healthy and constructive way, it can be a powerful force for good. However, if anger is expressed in an unhealthy and destructive way, it can have serious consequences. Anger can motivate us to take action and make changes but uncontrolled anger can lead to violence and aggression

kelseyfrog 3y ago

I thought it was terrible too. The author didn't state their assumptions and didn't address the social norms surrounding anger. Anger is, at least where I live, not a socially acceptable emotion to express. This belief is the core of the article, and I imagine that a lot of folks reading this are thinking, "That's right it's not," "There's always a reason not to be angry," &c. However, anger is also a completely valid emotion - we've all experienced anger. My point is that we have no socially acceptable outlets for anger. We have to mask, sublimate, redirect, suppress, or simply not be angry for basically our entire lives. This article is a product of that belief. I run a sporadic event with a group of friends called "Scream at the Moon Night". On a full moon we go out to an open field and I run through a list of prompts that all ask for a screaming response. We scream out all that pent up anger and once we're done we take a seat and just talk. It's cathartic. I've had moms take their kids and scream about bullies. People have screamed about work, ex's, life struggles, everything. It's great, but the take away is that this is so outside the social norms that I wouldn't blame you if you thought it was weird. There isn't space to do this socially, I had to make it.