>Most of all a lack of empathy and good will is a good sign that you keep this person at a distance I don't think that's true, really. I mean, you might be ind

>Most of all a lack of empathy and good will is a good sign that you keep this person at a distance I don't think that's true, really. I mean, you might be indifferent to a given person who you've never met, but to some extent its impossible to have no feelings about someone who in some way has come into contact with you, and I would say that the more intensely you have feelings for them, either attractive or repulsive, the more you have an imagined identification, which can either be one of a sublimated erotic narcissistic attachment (empathy), or one that is destructive (removal, death and replacement), in the latter case always as a defence mechanism in the same way as repression (recall the old "fort, da" story).