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This kind of thing has actually existed for a long time. They predated dating sites and had even worked off paper as far as I understand. The problem is they
by ben7799 3y ago
This kind of thing has actually existed for a long time. They predated dating sites and had even worked off paper as far as I understand.
The problem is they cost a lot more, and still had basically zero guarantee of any success. IIRC they were so expensive most single people would have trouble affording them.
I met my wife on eHarmony back when it was relatively new. I had tried one of the non-computerized matching services at some point and it was like 4x what Match or eHarmony cost and it was a pretty poor service.
I probably tried Match in 2000 for the first time? Had a lot of bad first dates on various sites between 2000-2005. Like 50+ people I never went on a second date with?
Back then tech wasn't cool. You could hit it off with someone and then they'd literally get up and leave when they found out your job.
I also tried speed dating, that was popular for a while. It was like a meetup where you talked to different people for 10 minutes each and then at the end checked off on a paper if you were interested in someone you met and if you matched with someone the organizer sent you each other's contact info.
I ended up trying all this cause when I finished college I moved to a new place. I basically knew no one. And at my first job I was like 23 and there was not a single other person under 30 in the division, it was even hard to find people to hang out with as friends. Working as an engineer was very different for me then.
- sss111 3y agodo you have any advice for someone who's just finished college and moved to a new place, its really hard to find people to hang out as friends.
- ben7799 3y agoYou want to look for some kind of social hobby that naturally attracts a wide range of people, both men and women, is in person, and makes you happy regardless of whether you're actually meeting people. Certain sports qualify. Volunteer groups can qualify. Some hobbies work. For sports today the rock climbing community is very inclusive and the sport naturally causes people to get to know each other since you can't climb with ropes in most places without pairing up with someone. The whole gym culture of rock climbing didn't really exist yet when I was in my early 20s.
- phlipski 3y agoMarried with 3 kids here. If was single today I'd be at the local rock gyms 24/7. I took my kids climbing a few weeks ago and I couldn't believe how many women were in that place. Roughly a 50/50 male/female ratio, and everyone is super fit. Yoga pants - chefs kiss. Easy to strike up conversations too when looking for help with a problem...
- golly_ned 3y ago| Married with 3 kids | Yoga pants - chefs kiss Gross.
- phlipski 3y agoJust because I'm married with kids doesn't mean I've stopped noticing/appreciating beautiful people.
- throwaway2037 3y agoWhy is this downvoted? It looks legit to me.
- lancesells 3y agoSports and any kind of group activities that interest you.
- bluGill 3y agoAny activity that is small enough that they need more people, but still large enough. Be careful, males and females are in general attracted to different activities. (I don't know why). If you are a guy trying to meet girls (or vice versa) your first choice is probably bad. If you don't see someone who could be a match right away you are in the wrong activity. (this is before you meet them to learn if they are married or have have compatible personality)
- tacticalturtle 3y agoSpeed dating has actually made a bit of a comeback: https://www.wsj.com/articles/speed-dating-online-apps-singles-nights-5b35552f https://www.wsj.com/articles/speed-dating-online-apps-single... I highly recommend it to anyone looking and tired of apps. Even if you don’t like the speed dating format, you end up in a bar filled with people you know are single and looking.
- shiroiushi 3y ago[flagged]