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> Raising kids is hard work. It's really not that hard. You just have to change expectations and lifestyle. I never thought of it as "work" per-se but rather a

> Raising kids is hard work. It's really not that hard. You just have to change expectations and lifestyle. I never thought of it as "work" per-se but rather an obligation and responsibility to people brought into the world. It's amazing really. It's probably not for everyone and if someone sees it the same way as doing actual work then maybe it isn't for them.

2024throwaway 3y ago
Currently changing diapers and feeding every 3 hours through the night. It’s work.
- baq 3y ago
  +1 on work. It isn't hard as in you don't have to be very qualified to do it. It is hard in that it's physically (sometimes) and mentally (always) exhausting. And yet you're expected to pay for it yourself and spent your free time for it. Parents should be paid to be parents.
  - nemo44x 3y ago
    > Parents should be paid to be parents. A parent is wealthy beyond money. Besides, we get tax breaks and if you're not a decent earner you get free things for being a parent. And I guess when I say it's not that hard - what I mean is that yeah there's effort involved, often time a lot. But it is made out to be this impossible thing. It's not. You figure it out and before you know it the really hard days are over. So yeah it's work but that shouldn't dissuade anyone from having kids. Anything good takes effort.
- nemo44x 3y ago
  It doesn't last that long. Been there, done that. But yeah it's work, of course it is. What I'm saying is it isn't as difficult as it is made out to be - that is it's made out to be this impossible thing. But yeah they break your back sometimes and emotionally it can be daunting. But those very difficult early days end pretty fast. What we did is mom pumped and put milk in bottles. She's go to be at like 7PM after a feeding off the tap and I'd take over and stay up until 2 or 3 to feed baby and change diapers every 2 or so hours. Then she'd be back at it in the early morning hours. It only lasts a bit.

2024throwaway 3y ago

Currently changing diapers and feeding every 3 hours through the night. It’s work.

baq 3y ago
+1 on work. It isn't hard as in you don't have to be very qualified to do it. It is hard in that it's physically (sometimes) and mentally (always) exhausting. And yet you're expected to pay for it yourself and spent your free time for it. Parents should be paid to be parents.
- nemo44x 3y ago
  > Parents should be paid to be parents. A parent is wealthy beyond money. Besides, we get tax breaks and if you're not a decent earner you get free things for being a parent. And I guess when I say it's not that hard - what I mean is that yeah there's effort involved, often time a lot. But it is made out to be this impossible thing. It's not. You figure it out and before you know it the really hard days are over. So yeah it's work but that shouldn't dissuade anyone from having kids. Anything good takes effort.
nemo44x 3y ago
It doesn't last that long. Been there, done that. But yeah it's work, of course it is. What I'm saying is it isn't as difficult as it is made out to be - that is it's made out to be this impossible thing. But yeah they break your back sometimes and emotionally it can be daunting. But those very difficult early days end pretty fast. What we did is mom pumped and put milk in bottles. She's go to be at like 7PM after a feeding off the tap and I'd take over and stay up until 2 or 3 to feed baby and change diapers every 2 or so hours. Then she'd be back at it in the early morning hours. It only lasts a bit.