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Good on you both! I've often heard that the wedding spend total is inversely proportional to the length of the marriage. (When the spending is crazy, one must

by toss1 3y ago

Good on you both! I've often heard that the wedding spend total is inversely proportional to the length of the marriage. (When the spending is crazy, one must ask what 'for what are they compensating?').

mattgreenrocks 3y ago
This is the sort of thing people never really warn you about.
qingcharles 3y ago
$25K on mine. Lasted four years, although that was mostly my fault.
- a_shoeboy 3y ago
  $6K on mine, 17 years and counting. How many more of these anecdotes do we need before can call it data?
  - michaelt 3y ago
    Somewhat unexpectedly, [1] which is based on actual university research, reports the opposite: Figure 9 says people who had more guests at their wedding report better marriage outcomes - even after controlling for income, education, race/ethnicity and religiousness. Of course, if you want to discard the research and stick with your anecdotes, it was partly funded by a charity founded by a guy who believed in 'strong families'. [1] http://before-i-do.org/ http://before-i-do.org/
    - aidenn0 3y ago
      You'd probably want to control for wealth to get good data. Marriage duration is correlated with wealth, and wealthy people probably spend more on everything, weddings included. [edit] nevermind, the the posted link claims the figures are controlled for several factors, including income and education, which both correlate with wealth.
aidenn0 3y ago
My wife was an only child from a wealthy family; short of destroying the relationship with her mother, we had little say in the cost of the wedding[1]. That being said, it really was a lovely wedding and a good time was had by all. 1: We compromised; the ceremony was all us, her mom planned the reception, with input from us. It is still mind-boggling to me how much her mom was invested; they normally get along fine (both before and since), but I was seriously worried that planning the wedding would destroy their relationship.

by toss1 3y ago

mattgreenrocks 3y ago

This is the sort of thing people never really warn you about.

qingcharles 3y ago

$25K on mine. Lasted four years, although that was mostly my fault.

a_shoeboy 3y ago
$6K on mine, 17 years and counting. How many more of these anecdotes do we need before can call it data?
- michaelt 3y ago
  Somewhat unexpectedly, [1] which is based on actual university research, reports the opposite: Figure 9 says people who had more guests at their wedding report better marriage outcomes - even after controlling for income, education, race/ethnicity and religiousness. Of course, if you want to discard the research and stick with your anecdotes, it was partly funded by a charity founded by a guy who believed in 'strong families'. [1] http://before-i-do.org/ http://before-i-do.org/
  - aidenn0 3y ago
    You'd probably want to control for wealth to get good data. Marriage duration is correlated with wealth, and wealthy people probably spend more on everything, weddings included. [edit] nevermind, the the posted link claims the figures are controlled for several factors, including income and education, which both correlate with wealth.

aidenn0 3y ago

My wife was an only child from a wealthy family; short of destroying the relationship with her mother, we had little say in the cost of the wedding[1]. That being said, it really was a lovely wedding and a good time was had by all. 1: We compromised; the ceremony was all us, her mom planned the reception, with input from us. It is still mind-boggling to me how much her mom was invested; they normally get along fine (both before and since), but I was seriously worried that planning the wedding would destroy their relationship.