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You've addressed everything except the free time aspect. For many, having free time replaced by family time with their kids is great and all they need/want. "
by TheCapeGreek 3y ago
You've addressed everything except the free time aspect.
For many, having free time replaced by family time with their kids is great and all they need/want.
"Selfishly" from the outside perspective, it makes all my friends with kids flakey, late, and one-track.
It takes a huge effort not only to avoid the consumerism side of children, but also to try and maintain your individuality.
The most successful parents I know in this regard are also conveniently the wealthiest.
- silisili 3y agoFree time I guess is a big one. If you value the 'hanging with the boys', clubbing, or really any solo activity it certainly would be a shock. By the time mine came along, I was done with most of that anyways I guess. But my own free time - watching TV, playing games, reading books, or just scrolling on my phone, was largely replaced with building legos, having nerf gun fights, playing board games, etc. One 'hidden' benefit is that you get to be a kid again without seeming weird, and kids toys todays are so much cooler. I do think 'selfish' was too broad and strong of a claim. I was focusing solely on the thought of people who make way more than enough money claiming a child would ruin their lifestyle/break them. In reality, there are tons of other reasons a person may not want a child that aren't selfish at all.