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One of my grandmothers, raised 3 children in a 1 bedroom house, alone (my grandfather died right after the youngest one was born). I see people now-a-days comp
by wtcactus 3y ago
One of my grandmothers, raised 3 children in a 1 bedroom house, alone (my grandfather died right after the youngest one was born).
I see people now-a-days complaining that they don't have money, or space, or time and I just scoff at them. We aren't having children because society stopped seeing laziness as a negative trait. Everyone around us keeps telling us "you need to take time to focus on yourself": which usually translates to spending the day browsing through Netflix and ordering food because you can't even be bothered to cook.
This is making for very unhappy, empty lives.
- WXLCKNO 3y agoThreads about having kids are always filled with judgemental condescending comments like this. It's fascinating.
- tacticalturtle 3y agoNone of this discussion is productive. Nobody is going to change their mind about having kids because of a thread on HN. I guess because having/not having kids is such a monumental decision, people feel the need to justify that their choice is the right one.
- paulryanrogers 3y agoCommunities like HN and Slashdot are why I'm not religious any more. And they've also made me more conscious of my choices and their impact on the environment and future generations.
- iteria 3y agoThe question is: did ahe want to raise her children like that and would she have chosen to do it that way if she had a choice. People raise children that exist any way they can. People don't choose more children in a bad situation. We can conjecture your grandmother didn't think it was ideal because she didn't have any more children during a time where having more than 3 wouldn't have been strange.
- wtcactus 3y agoMy country is (or was) profoundly catholic. It was not well looked upon to remarry after getting widowed. My grandmother never remarried, so she never had any more children.
- strikelaserclaw 3y agoI agree that there are a large number of people who overthink having kids and so don't but i don't think not having children makes ones life 'empty' or 'unhappy'. Like everything, it really depends on an individual, some people thrive as parents, others really regret it.