I was in a similar boat but did end up having a son recently with my wife. I am still pretty sure that I would be happy without kids but I am also happy with a

I was in a similar boat but did end up having a son recently with my wife. I am still pretty sure that I would be happy without kids but I am also happy with a kid. One thing I think people do tend to overestimate is how much work kids will be in the long term. Yes, short term is crazy, the first couple of years are very intense. But they become more and more independent each year and grow into an equal member of your family. Think about your own parents. I don't think mine were significantly constrained in their life after we turned 10. I mean if you think you'd want to go one month long solo travels each years that's a different story but otherwise kids can be pretty independent. I stayed home alone for a week because I didn't want to go on family holiday when I was 15. If kids stay one year olds forever no one would have kids, you'd go insane. But that's not the case.