I can't help how you consider yourself, or what colloquialisms we don't share. I also can't help that you don't get the privilege of choosing how you come acros

I can't help how you consider yourself, or what colloquialisms we don't share. I also can't help that you don't get the privilege of choosing how you come across or how that's answered. No one does. But your behavior can influence it, and has. If at any point you had attacked the argument rather than the person, we might have had a worthwhile discussion. Instead you opened with arrogant condescension, claiming I set out to minimize others' suffering in favor of my own, and explaining to me how I should do better than your own assumption, rather than attempting to engage with the argument I had actually made. When challenged on this you responded with considerably more of the same. This has not changed to date, which is a pity. You could instead, for example, have introduced the concept of psychological resilience, with which I was not familiar under that name, and which is a lot of what I was striving to express. That would have made for a more useful discussion, but you weren't here for that. I responded in accord with what such behavior deserves. If you didn't like that it turned into a fight, why did you do so much from the start to help that happen? If you didn't want to work to make your point, why enter the discussion at all? If you weren't here for a conversation, why did you start a conversation? As I said, I can't help how you consider yourself. I can only tell you what you've shown me.