I need the version of this guide that's written for those of us who never hit that challenge in school, but got absolutely clobbered in real life by the fact th

I need the version of this guide that's written for those of us who never hit that challenge in school, but got absolutely clobbered in real life by the fact that most success depends on incremental effort over time, not immediate or last-second success. People kept telling me it would happen at the next level of schooling, and I kind of wish it had. At least then I might have learned what to do about it without the risk of "failure means I have to live outside."