> Like the question isn't really "is X bad in an objective way" but more "did X create a bunch of problems for so and so that make their life harder in terms of

> Like the question isn't really "is X bad in an objective way" but more "did X create a bunch of problems for so and so that make their life harder in terms of emotions, psychology, etc." From the book itself, trauma is more closely defined as “what causes the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight) to overreact” which then causes the body to have to deal with the excess cortisol released by the overreaction. This can be the accumulation of micro-stressors or individual major events. OP’s dismissal of things due to being “common life events” is simply ridiculous.