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> Break ups, failing a class, or even getting yelled at by someone I agree a lot of people overblow trauma. However it is worth mentioning, all the things that

> Break ups, failing a class, or even getting yelled at by someone I agree a lot of people overblow trauma. However it is worth mentioning, all the things that you mention can be traumatizing, though. Like imagine breaking up with a partner of a few years because they've been serially cheating on you and lying about it. Imagine failing a class when you've been pressured by your parents your entire life to do well in school, and you know this is going to set them off the edge. Imagine being yelled at for 20 minutes in front of the whole class as a tiny kid. Like the question isn't really "is X bad in an objective way" but more "did X create a bunch of problems for so and so that make their life harder in terms of emotions, psychology, etc."

voisin 3y ago
> Like the question isn't really "is X bad in an objective way" but more "did X create a bunch of problems for so and so that make their life harder in terms of emotions, psychology, etc." From the book itself, trauma is more closely defined as “what causes the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight) to overreact” which then causes the body to have to deal with the excess cortisol released by the overreaction. This can be the accumulation of micro-stressors or individual major events. OP’s dismissal of things due to being “common life events” is simply ridiculous.