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I work as a computer programmer. I sit behind a desk and I have fun solving problems... while getting paid to use technology. You may not see it as work... but

I work as a computer programmer. I sit behind a desk and I have fun solving problems... while getting paid to use technology. You may not see it as work... but the guy is literally getting paid for it. No offense but it doesn't matter what you see or what you think you see - what matters is what's really happening. And what's really happening is this guy has gotten REALLY lucky: He's got a job where he can have "fun/play" doing something that pays his bills. That doesn't make his "sacrifice" anything less because it's enjoyable (sacrificing time with wife/kid(s)). It makes his sacrifice enjoyable but he still has to make the same sacrifice that parents around the world make on the daily. I guess I'd ask you honestly... do you see professional streamers or gaming streamers as working? Destiny, Vaush, Asmond Gold, pewdiepie, etc? I know streamers that spend 12 hours a day online engaging in content to make money - and a few of them have kid(s). They are having fun and making money while working their asses off to better their lives and, presumably, their families lives. They aren't slaving in a coal mine or sitting with dead looks in their eyes in a cubicle but they are making money and ends meet. Just because they are lucky (and work their asses off) doesn't mean they aren't also sacrificing. But I digress. I'm lucky enough to love what I do as well so I think the fact this guy can provide for his family by playing with toy is fucking awesome.

Fnoord 3y ago
If he is productively working, then he needs to balance work and his RL responsibilities. His review on this device does not have higher importance than his baby, and the way he worded it is misogynistic (but like I said some men like to sound like tough boy when it comes to this, overstating their power in family while in reality he may get pussy whipped over something like this). As for the examples you mention, I only know Asmongold (and Pewdiepie from committing suicide). Asmongold is a child in an adult body. But I think that is true for a lot of influencers. I find them overrated but they can consider themselves lucky in their niche. Either way, they're exceptions, not the rule of thumb.
- true_religion 3y ago
  Lots of people don’t balance their responsibilities in the way you are talking about. For example, soldiers on deployment or travel sales people, or people who work foe international organizations or migrant farmers… all have to leave home for weeks to months in order to earn money.
- Tagbert 3y ago
  Are we assuming that he works like this all year long? It seems that he did a short stint of work “heads down” in an AR/VR device to write a story. That is analogous to his saying “Hey, Family, I need to take a trip for work for the next week. See you when I get back”. That seems pretty normal and not at all irresponsible.
- wernercd 3y ago
  "does not have higher priority" Where do you have ANY evidence that his kid is being neglected? We are literally talking about 1 week. 1 freaking week. A long week of over time. "misogynistic" lol working with his wife as a team to take care of their kid is misogyny? I'm sorry but you obviously have a different definition. Because there's nothing bad about sacrificing for your family - even if you have fun while doing so. Just like my question about you having proof of anything bad about this exchange as one half of the couple... what proof do you have of anything nefarious, misogynistic (other than the wording you don't approve of) or being "pussy whipped". I question your motives as your statements show you have your own bias that makes having a real conversation with you questionable. "exceptions, not the rule of thumb" Correct. They are exceptions because they have fun doing what they do. the vast majority of people don't enjoy what they do. They work to live. Most people have jobs - not careers they love. They make money to provide for those they love (even if that's only themselves). The rule is people sacrifice for themselves and their family. The only part of this conversation that's the exception is the fact that this guy gets to play with an over priced toy and gets paid for it. He's still sacrificing (and without proof of neglect or harm to wife/kid - at least no more than any other 9/5 job would be considered). Nothing you've said challenges my position that he's lucky for doing it but he's still sacrificing for his family. Props to him.

Fnoord 3y ago

If he is productively working, then he needs to balance work and his RL responsibilities. His review on this device does not have higher importance than his baby, and the way he worded it is misogynistic (but like I said some men like to sound like tough boy when it comes to this, overstating their power in family while in reality he may get pussy whipped over something like this). As for the examples you mention, I only know Asmongold (and Pewdiepie from committing suicide). Asmongold is a child in an adult body. But I think that is true for a lot of influencers. I find them overrated but they can consider themselves lucky in their niche. Either way, they're exceptions, not the rule of thumb.

true_religion 3y ago
Lots of people don’t balance their responsibilities in the way you are talking about. For example, soldiers on deployment or travel sales people, or people who work foe international organizations or migrant farmers… all have to leave home for weeks to months in order to earn money.
Tagbert 3y ago
Are we assuming that he works like this all year long? It seems that he did a short stint of work “heads down” in an AR/VR device to write a story. That is analogous to his saying “Hey, Family, I need to take a trip for work for the next week. See you when I get back”. That seems pretty normal and not at all irresponsible.
wernercd 3y ago
"does not have higher priority" Where do you have ANY evidence that his kid is being neglected? We are literally talking about 1 week. 1 freaking week. A long week of over time. "misogynistic" lol working with his wife as a team to take care of their kid is misogyny? I'm sorry but you obviously have a different definition. Because there's nothing bad about sacrificing for your family - even if you have fun while doing so. Just like my question about you having proof of anything bad about this exchange as one half of the couple... what proof do you have of anything nefarious, misogynistic (other than the wording you don't approve of) or being "pussy whipped". I question your motives as your statements show you have your own bias that makes having a real conversation with you questionable. "exceptions, not the rule of thumb" Correct. They are exceptions because they have fun doing what they do. the vast majority of people don't enjoy what they do. They work to live. Most people have jobs - not careers they love. They make money to provide for those they love (even if that's only themselves). The rule is people sacrifice for themselves and their family. The only part of this conversation that's the exception is the fact that this guy gets to play with an over priced toy and gets paid for it. He's still sacrificing (and without proof of neglect or harm to wife/kid - at least no more than any other 9/5 job would be considered). Nothing you've said challenges my position that he's lucky for doing it but he's still sacrificing for his family. Props to him.