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I grew up in Lexington, KY and Sharps Chapel, TN, but spent the last eighteen years in CA. I'm hoping to move back in the next couple of years. My parents are s

I grew up in Lexington, KY and Sharps Chapel, TN, but spent the last eighteen years in CA. I'm hoping to move back in the next couple of years. My parents are still out there. I hope to still be welcome.

barake 3y ago
Hit me up if you come back, there is a decent tech community in Louisville and Lexington.
rpmisms 3y ago
You understand, you grew up here. As long as you don't try to change anything, I'll personally welcome you with open arms. I'm protective of the culture, not xenophobic.
- fibonachos 3y ago
  I have read this sentiment elsewhere and I’m genuinely curious about what it is that the imports try to change. I’m a California native and have lived here most of my life. Any time I have thoughts of moving somewhere else, it’s usually because I’m drawn to the culture. So the idea of moving somewhere only to try turning it into the place I moved from just seems odd to me. I know people move for other reasons, CoL being the most obvious one in this context. Even then I would expect people to choose a place where they would more easily assimilate rather than trying to change the existing culture. Lastly, California is far from being a monoculture. Even in the famously liberal areas, there is still a great diversity of culture and ideology in my experience. Drive two hours in any direction from those areas and you may as well be in rural anywhere USA. I feel like the California hate is rooted in stereotypes that don’t apply to a majority of the population here.
  - rpmisms 3y ago
    I've watched many Californians move here over the past few years, and I've noticed a few things: There's the obvious, stereotypival Californians. Whiny, entitled, generally bothersome people. Not a lot of them move here. I know a couple families from conservative/rural Cali, and they're not too bad, although they just have a weird attitude. It's like their priorities are out of order compared to their surroundings. The air is different on the west coast, might be a part of it. The biggest problem is the imports who move here because it's so beautiful and cheap (true), but they just want to change a few things. We don't want your progressive policies, gun regulation, or any of the other hundred nitpicks you have. Some of them may be fair ideas, but the reason we don't have them is partly to keep people like them out, and partly because they stem from the way of thinking that goes with living here; We take care of our own business, we take care of our families and churches, we don't idealize ambition, and we don't like changing things. If you're willing to actively adopt that mindset, please come here. If you aren't, stay the hell out.
    - alienthrowaway 3y ago
      If only California was as protective of its values against the many transplants who try and change its culture, the paradox of tolerance, I suppose. Sigh
      - rpmisms 3y ago
        Agreed. Local culture is critical for healthy society.
      - Broken_Hippo 3y ago
        Some values should change. If a trans person (or other minority) cannot go around your town unharassed, I don't understand why you'd want to keep that value instead of valuing humans as humans and treating them as such. Why the fuck would I, being bisexual, move to such a place - where I can't be open about basic things? Why would I move somewhere that friends didn't have that option?
        wizerdrobe 3y ago
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        Broken_Hippo 3y ago
        The idea that you’d face any kind of threat to life and limb in a small town is an ignorant narcissistic meme. I didn't say that. I said unharassed. I've personally been the victim of these things in small towns. I've personally been ostracized. Bisexual, athiest, and not really caring if my lover's skin tone matched my own. Trans folk have it worse than I ever have. If people in your town aren't pushing back against anti-trans laws and things like that, it isn't good enough. And those things you mention? Yeah, meth is a big issue in rural America. Before production got moved to cartels, I've personally seen more than two buildings that were destroyed because of a home meth lab. Farmers used to find them quite often. Violence is everywhere, and I never said it was perfect. It still shouldn't prevent your area from accepting folks as they are and treating them well. It isn't asking for a pedestal, just wanting to be treated like other folks.

barake 3y ago

Hit me up if you come back, there is a decent tech community in Louisville and Lexington.

rpmisms 3y ago

You understand, you grew up here. As long as you don't try to change anything, I'll personally welcome you with open arms. I'm protective of the culture, not xenophobic.

fibonachos 3y ago
I have read this sentiment elsewhere and I’m genuinely curious about what it is that the imports try to change. I’m a California native and have lived here most of my life. Any time I have thoughts of moving somewhere else, it’s usually because I’m drawn to the culture. So the idea of moving somewhere only to try turning it into the place I moved from just seems odd to me. I know people move for other reasons, CoL being the most obvious one in this context. Even then I would expect people to choose a place where they would more easily assimilate rather than trying to change the existing culture. Lastly, California is far from being a monoculture. Even in the famously liberal areas, there is still a great diversity of culture and ideology in my experience. Drive two hours in any direction from those areas and you may as well be in rural anywhere USA. I feel like the California hate is rooted in stereotypes that don’t apply to a majority of the population here.
- rpmisms 3y ago
  I've watched many Californians move here over the past few years, and I've noticed a few things: There's the obvious, stereotypival Californians. Whiny, entitled, generally bothersome people. Not a lot of them move here. I know a couple families from conservative/rural Cali, and they're not too bad, although they just have a weird attitude. It's like their priorities are out of order compared to their surroundings. The air is different on the west coast, might be a part of it. The biggest problem is the imports who move here because it's so beautiful and cheap (true), but they just want to change a few things. We don't want your progressive policies, gun regulation, or any of the other hundred nitpicks you have. Some of them may be fair ideas, but the reason we don't have them is partly to keep people like them out, and partly because they stem from the way of thinking that goes with living here; We take care of our own business, we take care of our families and churches, we don't idealize ambition, and we don't like changing things. If you're willing to actively adopt that mindset, please come here. If you aren't, stay the hell out.
  - alienthrowaway 3y ago
    If only California was as protective of its values against the many transplants who try and change its culture, the paradox of tolerance, I suppose. Sigh
    - rpmisms 3y ago
      Agreed. Local culture is critical for healthy society.
    - Broken_Hippo 3y ago
      Some values should change. If a trans person (or other minority) cannot go around your town unharassed, I don't understand why you'd want to keep that value instead of valuing humans as humans and treating them as such. Why the fuck would I, being bisexual, move to such a place - where I can't be open about basic things? Why would I move somewhere that friends didn't have that option?
      - wizerdrobe 3y ago
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        Broken_Hippo 3y ago
        The idea that you’d face any kind of threat to life and limb in a small town is an ignorant narcissistic meme. I didn't say that. I said unharassed. I've personally been the victim of these things in small towns. I've personally been ostracized. Bisexual, athiest, and not really caring if my lover's skin tone matched my own. Trans folk have it worse than I ever have. If people in your town aren't pushing back against anti-trans laws and things like that, it isn't good enough. And those things you mention? Yeah, meth is a big issue in rural America. Before production got moved to cartels, I've personally seen more than two buildings that were destroyed because of a home meth lab. Farmers used to find them quite often. Violence is everywhere, and I never said it was perfect. It still shouldn't prevent your area from accepting folks as they are and treating them well. It isn't asking for a pedestal, just wanting to be treated like other folks.