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Yes, I think I'd be fine weeding out people who can't read a social situation and decide to traumadump to their future coworkers.
by kapp_in_life 3y ago
Yes, I think I'd be fine weeding out people who can't read a social situation and decide to traumadump to their future coworkers.
- TehCorwiz 3y agoLike the interviewer probing private traumatic experiences in a largely one-sided interrogation?
- joenot443 3y agoSurely you can understand the difference between a voluntary interview and an involuntary interrogation? This is a pretty poor comparison, I think.
- TehCorwiz 3y agoI agree, and personally would have no qualms about walking away from an interview I didn't like. Would you choose to leave and walk out of an interview if you objected to something? how would you feel? Would you feel like you were walking away from an opportunity maybe? What if your situation was less than ideal? I think you would find that many people don't feel the same independence or freedom that you and I seem to. Especially if they're not already comfortable financially.
- PartiallyTyped 3y agoSo the interviewee is stuck between a rock and a hard place. Between the need to have a job to survive, and the need to appease some self-important middle manager who took it upon them to perform a psych eval, with zero credentials, while controlling the future of the candidates, and their ability to put food on the table. Kindly, make your self as visible as possible so that I know to avoid you.
- rectang 3y agoExactly. I felt intense revulsion reading GP’s comment. Collaborating in a team where there’s zero concern for people’s life circumstances is a no-go. It’s impossible to maintain work-life balance when life can’t even be acknowledged.
- nerdponx 3y agoNobody is asking anyone to do that. The bias here is that a person with a traumatic past might seem uninteresting precisely because they unlikely going to share as much detail as this interviewer might want.
- the_mar 3y agoOk so how should someone with a traumatic childhood answer questions about their childhood? You can change the subject or answer very surface-level and be labeled "unengaged" or "socially inept" You can answer truthfully and be judged for traumadumping You can make up a fake origin story that fits the interviewer's criteria and be disingenuous
- darkwater 3y agoRemember that we are talking about a job interview here.
- testfoobar 3y agoI don't know about you or your story. I hope you're doing well. I've learned that the majority of people just don't want to hear anything negative or anything that makes them feel sad. If I want to have social, casual friends, I have to wall off parts of my life story. Thankfully, I have a couple of close friends and family who know the reality and that is enough for me.
- KptMarchewa 3y agoI'm really glad I don't live in a country like this.
- em-bee 3y agothat's no country. you find these kind of people everywhere. my theory is that the people who don't want to hear those things have not yet dealt with their own traumas (which can take decades).
- nineplay 3y ago"“Tell me about you. If your life was a book, give me the chapter titles from your birth till now.”" Would you consider an accurate answer to that to be a traumadump? How quickly do you think people can make up happy childhood stories when put on the spot like this? It is a completely inappropriate question in a job interview.
- jamiek88 3y agoOk, you seem to have read this ‘social situation’ (more like economic extortion to me) differently to everyone else here. How would you handle this?