> there is no "singular you", just a swirling multitudes who bob to the surface for attention depending on the context Sounds a little like “One, No One and On

> there is no "singular you", just a swirling multitudes who bob to the surface for attention depending on the context Sounds a little like “One, No One and One Hundred Thousand” have you read that one? Also, > In my teens it didn't hurt that it had some pretty intense pornographic sex scenes For me, that book is Lockpick Pornography - it’s a fairy horny story, but the main character struggling to figure out what to do about gender and sexuality, and the way that struggle starts out seeming like it’s about systemic oppression and heteronormativity but quickly spirals into the character just having a series of self destructive meltdowns is so so compelling. It even manages to have a bit of a happy non-ending.