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I'm 45. I don't do any of the things you're talking about doing outside work. I also have a wife and 4 kids. There's just not time. I don't feel bad about i
by stcroixx 3y ago
I'm 45. I don't do any of the things you're talking about doing outside work. I also have a wife and 4 kids. There's just not time. I don't feel bad about it either. I hate that I have waste so much time on this boring computer stuff to pay my bills, but otherwise, I'm spending my very limited time how I want to be spending it.
When I hear about people doing something like a Rust project for fun outside of work I assume they either have zero social life or are very young.
- jokethrowaway 3y agoYou are in for plenty of surprises. You can prioritise anything, if coding is fun for you you can find the time. (3 kids, 30s). Same for exercise, and pretty much anything else
- fsloth 3y ago44 here! This is what it’s to be middle aged! To me it’s not weird to do some Rust programming out of work. What is weird is if people believe it would be some sort of virtue. If it’s fun for the person, great! If it’s not fun and you are not getting paid for it - maybe rather find something you like to do.
- lliamander 3y agoThat sounds like a pretty good life! But I think for someone 20 years your junior at the beginning of their career, they probably should be pushing themselves pretty hard. But even for those of us who are more established, I think it can be a good thing to dial back our social lives from time to time and invest in building and maintaining our career capital. That is especially true if you find work boring. It is totally fine to be bored at work for a time, but long term that is a sign of stagnation. Stagnation, in turn, can leave you in a vulnerable place when market conditions turn for the worse.