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> I can tell you that sometimes there is no pattern! As an autist: you don't see the patterns that you've disrupted. We don't talk about most of our problems.
by o11c 3y ago
> I can tell you that sometimes there is no pattern!
As an autist: you don't see the patterns that you've disrupted. We don't talk about most of our problems.
Often it can be something like: "3 days ago, you forgot to mention ahead of time that you were going to the store. As a result, everything has been stressful and I responded badly to things that normally would've been below the alarm threshold."
Generally I find that 3 days is about how long oneshot disruptions cause problems, though this is tapering. 1 day is usually enough for my coping strategies to kick in and mitigate the worst at least. Of course, ongoing problems or unrelated but coincident problems can stretch it longer.
- WWLink 3y agoI think 3 days is a reasonable look-back period for analyzing. I want my brothers (both are on the spectrum, though one is affected more than the other) to be happy and less stressed. Speaking selfishly, it... makes my life a lot easier. Honestly when I have those "what happened?" moments I can go back as far as a week or two sometimes looking for small shifts. One that really sucks for all parties is the unpredictable. Something like, the doctor being late to their appointment or our assistant we hire to help not being able to come that day (or coming late)... Or THE WEATHER MESSING PLANS UP. Especially the anticipation that weather might screw the plans up. Plans that are "we've done this for the past 26 saturdays so why can't we do it this saturday? Can't you just make it not rain or something?" :D (I am exaggerating for extra silliness) Those are the worst x_X