Definitely "love" in its casual usage, is very fickle. You can turn something you love into something you hate by over-doing it. Maybe the best way to kill so

Definitely "love" in its casual usage, is very fickle. You can turn something you love into something you hate by over-doing it. Maybe the best way to kill something you love is to make it into work in the first place. There's a good argument for keeping the things you really savour a little at arms-length. One psychological idea I found immensely helpful but hard to digest is the relation between love and hate; Love and hate are not opposites, but proximate. Love can easily flip to hate and vice versa. They're from a vector of two circuits, arousal and pleasure/displeasure. The opposite of love (and hate) is indifference. Socially, we worry about "hate speech" when a much more dangerous state of mind is blank faced indifference. ( Most of what I'm saying is just Erich Fromm [0]). [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Art_of_Loving https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Art_of_Loving