One key trait of arseholes is that they usually have zero interest in changing their behaviour, and tend to strongly dislike others trying to change them. You

One key trait of arseholes is that they usually have zero interest in changing their behaviour, and tend to strongly dislike others trying to change them. You and I can do better because we care to improve ourselves. Your answer is unrealistic. Have you ever successfully changed a narcissistic arsehole? I certainly don't know how to. I have heard some arseholes talk the talk about how they will change their destructive behaviours (although more usually just denial and excuses), but I have rarely seen them actually succeed in changing.