Maybe it helps to think about children's needs as human needs using Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs[0]. Parents fulfill basic needs pretty well without much strugg

Maybe it helps to think about children's needs as human needs using Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs[0]. Parents fulfill basic needs pretty well without much struggle learning how. Psychological needs are often neglected (though I say that without a good reference for statistics on this, but I suspect it's something that isn't hard to agree on.) Sure, they say "No one knows how to raise kids merely by instinct," and this is maybe half-true, in that it's pretty instinctual to give them food, share the shelter you provide for yourself, and protect your kids from physical danger. But beyond that, it's not instinctual. [0] https://canadacollege.edu/dreamers/docs/Maslows-Hierarchy-of-Needs.pdf https://canadacollege.edu/dreamers/docs/Maslows-Hierarchy-of... (PDF)