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I have been working almost remotely since the pandemic. I have a family with wife and son. Here are my recommendations for a family man: - Send kid(s) to dayca
by hnthrowaway0328 3y ago
I have been working almost remotely since the pandemic. I have a family with wife and son. Here are my recommendations for a family man:
- Send kid(s) to daycare ASAP unless you really want to homeschool. Send them to swimming/boxing/whatever during weekends too if you can afford.
- Exercise...a LOT. I can't do it as much as I like because I have small issues all over my body. If you can, exercise as much as you want, and buy massage and physical therapy services as much as you want.
- Completely split work and life with separate equipment, home office (with a hanged sign if possible), separate "uniforms", separate furnitures and such. If you have to deal with some emergencies in life (work is a lot forgiving regarding emergencies), quit the home office first. If you have to do off-time on-calls, speak to your manager that you only have limited capacity for that.
- Hire cleaning services maybe once per 2-4 weeks so that you don't have to do deep cleaning once for a while. Since you are working remote I assume you have good salary. Same principles for other services. If wife complains about cost, ask her to do it.
- Have an indoor hobby and a couple of outdoor hobbies and try to bring your kid onboard ASAP. Why two outdoor hobbies? Because in Canada there are about...4 months of winter so you might have to switch hobbies (e.g. camping in summer and skiing in winter). But again, this is totally up to you. I'm actually going to do a lot of winter hiking/camping when my son reaches say 7-8 when he is strong enough, so I only need to keep one outdoor hobby.
- If both of you are working remotely, it's important to keep good relationship with your wife. I figured out that the closer two people are, the more nitpicks they will make for each other. Keep separate home offices. Buy a few surprise gifts once for a while. Whatever that works.
- If you find a good recruiter, and if you are of at least senior position (for us IC, that is: senior, lead, staff), I'd advise keep a good relationship with the recruiter. Remote jobs are less common these days and you never know when it's going to become rarer.
- Be flexible. This is really very important as being flexible smoothes everything else. If you have to stay in a certain city, that means your opportunities have a foreseeable upper limit. If you have to stay in a certain country, that means you cannot enjoy other opportunities.
- Learn a bit about home improvement (I don't know much at the moment). You can actually turn it into a hobby if you want. If you are a handyman, this not only opens new opportunities on the house market, but also improve your flexibility. Let me explain: There are MANY houses out there that are badly maintained with a cheap price (and still no buyer because of the status), and if you can do some improvement and undercut the contractors they are you to take. My friend managed to paint all of the rooms and remove all floor tiles, carpets and other stuffs with a crowbar, which saved a HUGE amount of $$$ in renovation (painting the house alone will take maybe $8K-10K). This also improves your flexibility as you can now move to remote areas and enjoy the view, without worrying about finding a plumber when there is a small leak.