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As a near 40 year old with absolutely tons of friends and family with children divorced or potentially not divorced by now, who never ever wants to have one of
by swozey 3y ago
As a near 40 year old with absolutely tons of friends and family with children divorced or potentially not divorced by now, who never ever wants to have one of his own, it absolutely blows my mind how little effort goes into preparing parents for a child.
I cannot believe I have friends that had kids in their early 20s or teens. Going to grab a beer with my 38yo friend and he's got a 16 yo kid.. wild.
- empath-nirvana 3y agoThe hospital gave us a 15 minute class on how to change diapers -- what else do you need to know? /s
- swozey 3y agolmao I'm still at the "I'm not touching that baby, I'll drop and break it" phase.
- anthonypasq 3y agoI mean historically this is the role of parents and grandparents
- lazide 3y agoI think most of the effort goes into convincing them to even do it in the first place. Frankly, telling them how hard it is going to be and educating them on dealing with it just makes that first part that much harder.
- asdff 3y agoWhat is also sad about a lack of any standard or education is when this leads to generational perpetuation of poor habits. You might not even realize you are continuing generational traumas, you might just think this is how you were raised and this is fine, or maybe it even subliminally impacts you and you don't even consider your own biases and how they are affecting others.
- oliwarner 3y agoFunny thing is, I look at that with envy. I'm about to break into my 40s, with two young kids and I kinda wish we did it sooner. I'd have more energy for them for starters, but I also realise that I'm unlikely to enjoy grandchildren if they leave it as late as we did.