This one hits close to home the last months. I'm coaching someone in a different time zone ( 7 hours difference). I tend to be effective and I also don't want

This one hits close to home the last months. I'm coaching someone in a different time zone ( 7 hours difference). I tend to be effective and I also don't want them to feel without work. There are some things that I consider weird with him, concerning his experience level. But after a talk internally, it was mentioned to ignore that until the onboarding is done ( different backgrounds). Now, it's possible that my priorities related to him came across as rude. So yeah, having a first "get to know" each other chat after 2 months ( 1 feature is down, but there should be improvements for the next feature socially wise). Anyone came across to a similar situations or books regarding these things that they found valuable?