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Wouldn't it be nice to hear all the lovely things friends and family might say about us at our funeral? No, you weirdo Guardian journalists, it would not. Beca

Wouldn't it be nice to hear all the lovely things friends and family might say about us at our funeral? No, you weirdo Guardian journalists, it would not. Because I'm not dead. And when my funeral does happen, I may be the theme, but it will not really be about me. It'll be about the living getting together and comforting one another. Or about whatever they want. Because I'll be dead. What kind of a maniacal ego maniac asks everyone close to them to all gather together and talk about how wonderful they are so they can watch?

awestroke 3y ago
> What kind of a maniacal ego maniac asks everyone close to them to all gather together and talk about how wonderful they are so they can watch? This, as currently worded, is a criticism of birthday parties as well
- robertlagrant 3y ago
  I've never been to a birthday party where the birthday boy/girl gathers people to do that. What's the point in subtracting value from a conversation with this distraction?
  - ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
    What's the point of judging the actions of people about to die?
    - sgu999 3y ago
      Everyone is about to die, nothing special about it
      - ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
        That simply is not true. Terminal patients have a deadline, you have a nebulous time somewhere in the future. If you knew for a fact you were gonna die tomorrow, would you still go into work?
    - robertlagrant 3y ago
      You need to define judging? Do you mean "voicing an opinion"?
      - ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
        I don't know how I would handle a terminal diagnosis so I refrain from "voicing an opinion" on the actions of those about to die.
CamelCaseName 3y ago
You wouldn't want to hear your friends share their favorite memories of you when you're on your deathbed? Call it a celebration of life instead of a funeral
- sgu999 3y ago
  Does everything need to be a celebration? Birthdays, weddings, baby showers, wedding-birthdays, stag do,... That's already plenty of opportunities for a narcissist to hear compliments from their friends in public.
  - matsemann 3y ago
    You sound bitter.
  - ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
    You sound like you don't have any friends and that's sad.
    - sgu999 3y ago
      You sound like I offended you. Are you a narcissist? Nothing like a good ad hominem to try to make a point, eh?
      - ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
        You French are so combative.
ryandrake 3y ago
> What kind of a maniacal ego maniac asks everyone close to them to all gather together and talk about how wonderful they are so they can watch? I don't know--this seems pretty consistent with our society's growing self-absorption and narcissism. A living funeral falls squarely within today's "I Am The Main Character" vibe.
- sgu999 3y ago
  > within today's "I Am The Main Character" vibe. That's a very western phenomenon, though. Maybe even very American...
matsemann 3y ago
A random event someone organizes for themselves? Yeah, weird. But did you skip the part where this is for terminal ill people to gather family and say their goodbyes?

awestroke 3y ago

> What kind of a maniacal ego maniac asks everyone close to them to all gather together and talk about how wonderful they are so they can watch? This, as currently worded, is a criticism of birthday parties as well

robertlagrant 3y ago
I've never been to a birthday party where the birthday boy/girl gathers people to do that. What's the point in subtracting value from a conversation with this distraction?
- ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
  What's the point of judging the actions of people about to die?
  - sgu999 3y ago
    Everyone is about to die, nothing special about it
    - ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
      That simply is not true. Terminal patients have a deadline, you have a nebulous time somewhere in the future. If you knew for a fact you were gonna die tomorrow, would you still go into work?
  - robertlagrant 3y ago
    You need to define judging? Do you mean "voicing an opinion"?
    - ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
      I don't know how I would handle a terminal diagnosis so I refrain from "voicing an opinion" on the actions of those about to die.

CamelCaseName 3y ago

You wouldn't want to hear your friends share their favorite memories of you when you're on your deathbed? Call it a celebration of life instead of a funeral

sgu999 3y ago
Does everything need to be a celebration? Birthdays, weddings, baby showers, wedding-birthdays, stag do,... That's already plenty of opportunities for a narcissist to hear compliments from their friends in public.
- matsemann 3y ago
  You sound bitter.
- ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
  You sound like you don't have any friends and that's sad.
  - sgu999 3y ago
    You sound like I offended you. Are you a narcissist? Nothing like a good ad hominem to try to make a point, eh?
    - ThrowawayTestr 3y ago
      You French are so combative.

ryandrake 3y ago

> What kind of a maniacal ego maniac asks everyone close to them to all gather together and talk about how wonderful they are so they can watch? I don't know--this seems pretty consistent with our society's growing self-absorption and narcissism. A living funeral falls squarely within today's "I Am The Main Character" vibe.

sgu999 3y ago
> within today's "I Am The Main Character" vibe. That's a very western phenomenon, though. Maybe even very American...

matsemann 3y ago

A random event someone organizes for themselves? Yeah, weird. But did you skip the part where this is for terminal ill people to gather family and say their goodbyes?