Not gonna share a long story, but be aware of one important nuance: your conversations with a friend founder may make you think that there’s more than there is

Not gonna share a long story, but be aware of one important nuance: your conversations with a friend founder may make you think that there’s more than there is in your position, now or in the future, or in general. It’s easy to tune into “the vibe” when you’re close, but keep your situation real and theirs only hypothetical. I lost too many years to it and left (myself, after a therapist opened my eyes). A year later the company decided to resurrect a promising project I worked on and came to me with an open offer. Turned out they couldn’t meet my pretty decent expectations (I still help the guy who does it, no grudge). All these we/growth-mindset talks were wishful thinking, sometimes just babble, on both sides. We didn’t end up being enemies, and I don’t feel betrayed or something, but not sure if there’s anything left to talk about either, cause almost all his talks are full of that reality-distortion overconfidence. Cannot unsee and got enough. Okay about him, but pretty negative about all these years that I could spend on something better to me.