I don't have an alternative, I was just sharing an observation. It was implied that this group of men is "forced" to better themselves or else be locked out of

I don't have an alternative, I was just sharing an observation. It was implied that this group of men is "forced" to better themselves or else be locked out of dating and family formation. A growing amount of men go for the "or else" part. So it doesn't look like a powerful motivator for change.