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It's wild that you said that amount because that was exactly the number. I have other friendships that have been tested for similar amounts that have survived.
by xrd 3y ago
It's wild that you said that amount because that was exactly the number.
I have other friendships that have been tested for similar amounts that have survived. But, it leaves a mark.
I had an ex-employee who worked for me under starvation wages in a startup long ago. He was upset about that and some tax implications, and brought it up with me. I gave him a smallish lump sum and enabled him to put a down payment on a house. I need to ask him about that, it was really brave to ask me to clean something up, and I never did that with the friend from the OP. I wonder if it would have gone differently.
I'm seeing a lot of people in my circle struggling right now. I bet 2024 is going to be a bad year for friendships.
- catlifeonmars 3y agoWow. $20k seems like a paltry sum to end a friendship over.
- dbspin 3y agoThis forum is so out of touch with reality sometimes I'm just left blinking and shaking my head. 20,000 dollars is an enormous amount of money to a supermajority of people in the developed world. Almost half an annual wage for most industrial workers in the EU and US.
- InitialLastName 3y agoThat's a very privileged perspective to have... I know plenty of people for whom a sudden $20k shortfall would be existential.
- catlifeonmars 3y agoI probably could have phrased it better, but my comment was taken out of context. What I mean is $20k is a paltry sum for a tech startup to screw someone over for. I don’t think it’s a small sum for most individual wage earners (especially with young children).
- blantonl 3y agoI struggle to find any situation where 20k is a paltry sum
- elevatedastalt 3y agoI was going to say "maybe to launch a rocket into space" but then I realized SpaceX has made even that much cheaper than it used to be. (Still more than 20K though :))
- networkchad 3y ago[dead]
- southernplaces7 3y agoReally? Try glancing the sorts of wages and earnings that literally 99% of the world's population makes on downwards and you'll quickly see that it's far, far from "paltry" for the vast majority of people.
- drpgq 3y agoAn interesting thought experiment to me is how much I would be willing to spend to preserve a friendship. Various situations over the past few years, including some businesses with friends made me think about hypotheticals.
- averageRoyalty 3y agoI'm unsure why my sibling comments seem to think the sentence ends at "sum". Is it possible to buy a real friendship for $20k? Is a friendship of many years worth more to you than $20k - would you stop being friends if someone else offered you that much to do so? This isn't a paltry sum of money, it is a paltry sum to end a friendship over.