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My kids definitely form stronger and fonder memories from vacations than from more mundane days together. I think the break from routine and generally more ple

My kids definitely form stronger and fonder memories from vacations than from more mundane days together. I think the break from routine and generally more pleasant setting alone is a big factor, so even just taking them to a national park or the beach probably covers a lot of ground vs helicopter rides. That said, I did a helicopter ride in my 20s and it was pretty amazing and I have vivid recollection even 20 years later

candiddevmike 3y ago
> My kids definitely form stronger and fonder memories from vacations than from more mundane days together. Honestly this is really sad to hear. I think you need to work on how you treat your kids during the "mundane days".
- miek 3y ago
  It might be the age of the kids; it's tough to snap older kids out of their disinterest in their parents, but vacations add leverage. I don't have experience with older kids, but I was told this recently by some parents.
- nytesky 3y ago
  I mean mundane days we both are working, have household chores that run endlessly, and have to cajole kids to do their homework and chores etc. Maybe a staycation where we ignore the laundry and dirty dishes and just hang out on the deck would be fun? But seems a bit like squandering vacation days…
  - nytesky 3y ago
    Was reflecting on this, and my kids actually do have a fond memory of pandemic lockdown. We spent a lot of time watching movies, board games, and local hikes and I think it made a decent memory out of a hard time (meanwhile we we going crazy working in the hours they were asleep or occupied with virtual school, etc — but kids have mostly fond memories of the time).
- OfficeChad 3y ago
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- meany 3y ago
  Is this just a factor of how the human brain works? My wife has stage 4 cancer and one of my strategies to help my kids have more memories is to build uniqueness into our activities, so years from now they can go, do you remember that time we went to x or did y with Mom? I think the human brain is much better at recalling unique events - whether they are bad or good

candiddevmike 3y ago

> My kids definitely form stronger and fonder memories from vacations than from more mundane days together. Honestly this is really sad to hear. I think you need to work on how you treat your kids during the "mundane days".

miek 3y ago
It might be the age of the kids; it's tough to snap older kids out of their disinterest in their parents, but vacations add leverage. I don't have experience with older kids, but I was told this recently by some parents.
nytesky 3y ago
I mean mundane days we both are working, have household chores that run endlessly, and have to cajole kids to do their homework and chores etc. Maybe a staycation where we ignore the laundry and dirty dishes and just hang out on the deck would be fun? But seems a bit like squandering vacation days…
- nytesky 3y ago
  Was reflecting on this, and my kids actually do have a fond memory of pandemic lockdown. We spent a lot of time watching movies, board games, and local hikes and I think it made a decent memory out of a hard time (meanwhile we we going crazy working in the hours they were asleep or occupied with virtual school, etc — but kids have mostly fond memories of the time).
OfficeChad 3y ago
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meany 3y ago
Is this just a factor of how the human brain works? My wife has stage 4 cancer and one of my strategies to help my kids have more memories is to build uniqueness into our activities, so years from now they can go, do you remember that time we went to x or did y with Mom? I think the human brain is much better at recalling unique events - whether they are bad or good