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I mean this sincerely, what's the alternative? This isn't a situation where women are organizing or just being spiteful and passing up perfectly good datable me
by Spivak 3y ago
I mean this sincerely, what's the alternative? This isn't a situation where women are organizing or just being spiteful and passing up perfectly good datable men to play political games, these men are genuinely considered undatable.
Do we draw straws?
- reverius42 3y agoHave these men considered self improvement (including having less abhorrent views according to the other gender) in order to become datable? Everyone makes their choices. If 45% of men are choosing to drop out of ever having a relationship without even trying, maybe that’s on them.
- iteratethis 3y agoWe have to be accurate about the statistic. It said that 45% had never approached a girl/woman. Not that 45% is permanently and actively avoiding having a relationship by choice. For sure they should become more active, but there may be societal trends contributing to the statistic: increased isolation, limited shared spaces, dating largely moving to apps, poor or no role models, fear of rejection, etc.
- iteratethis 3y agoI don't have an alternative, I was just sharing an observation. It was implied that this group of men is "forced" to better themselves or else be locked out of dating and family formation. A growing amount of men go for the "or else" part. So it doesn't look like a powerful motivator for change.