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"don't force them to put on a coat" I'm in the middle of this right now with a 2 year old. Allowing your child to make decisions you disagree with has many dow
by nightowl_games 3y ago
"don't force them to put on a coat"
I'm in the middle of this right now with a 2 year old. Allowing your child to make decisions you disagree with has many down stream consequences, like what food they eat, what time they go to bed, how much screen time they watch, whether they sit at the table to eat.
How's that gonna go when it's time say "don't force them to do their homework, let them decide!"?
It's not about the coat, though the coat can be a matter of life or death in the case of a car accident or the sudden unexpected incapacitation of the parent, it's about following instructions and setting boundaries and being able to make the necessary decisions as a parent.
- patientzero 3y agoI'd say drawing a line in the sand where you don't need to is not about the coat or the slippery slope it doesn't cause if you don't do it.. It is about needing to be a helicopter parent because you have lost their respect.
- craigdalton 3y agoAs a parent of twenty somethings,I would advise parents not to pressure their kids to do anything much unless it's really stupid dangerous (not just dangerous). Wouldn't/didn't pressure them to do homework. Bit my tongue as they jumped of rocks into seething oceans and rocketed down mountain trails beside ravines. Half of the battle of parenting is not passing on your own fears to the kids.
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- craigdalton 3y agoBIT my tongue. Maybe should have written "your own fears", not just neurotic fears, hard to differentiate really.
- nightowl_games 3y agoWhats the other half?
- Fricken 3y agoWith matters pertaining to risk, you can let the laws of physics do most of the tough talking.
- adrianN 3y agoGiving the child some autonomy doesn't mean that you need to follow antiauthoritarian parenting schemes. It might even make it easier to convince the child to do the things that are important if you don't pressure them about things that are not important.