You can’t have it both ways. You forced this person into it, against the grain, and now that they want to leave you’re surprised? It’s a tough pill to swallow

You can’t have it both ways. You forced this person into it, against the grain, and now that they want to leave you’re surprised? It’s a tough pill to swallow but hopefully you learn something about human nature from this experience and don’t become resentful/bitter about it. This is like purchasing a mail order bride, relocating them to your country, and then being shocked when they decide they want to be in a different relationship because it wasn’t what they thought it would be. Can you blame them? We owe nothing to anyone except our children and our pets. You’re piling a lot of guilt and shame and pressure onto this individual for leaving but at the end of the day the buck stops with you. Gotta be better about choosing who you work with, and how you do that.