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It depends on how you want to spend your time, right? Fully agree you can change people, but is that worth spending your time? Do you have other goals in life?
by czbond 3y ago
It depends on how you want to spend your time, right? Fully agree you can change people, but is that worth spending your time? Do you have other goals in life?
I recall a moving story to me on ... "This American Life" on NPR, which had a story about the most moving way for people to change their minds on polarizing issues, is to spend lots of time talking & hanging out with people who lived personally with whatever is the opposing views in a civil manner.
The example at the time was based on groups not accepting the gay lifestyle spending time with those who were.
But just because you try, doesn't mean the other person is ready to accept. So like in chaos theory, you have to plan on failure..... hope for success.
- JumpCrisscross 3y ago> agree you can change people, but is that worth spending your time? No. To change your own mind? Absolutely.
- czbond 3y agoGreat point (I know in HN context, I shouldn't have replied, but you're right)
- 082349872349872 3y agoSee also Bob Altemeyer on quantitatively tested ways of reducing "Authoritarian Follower" tendencies. (personally, I found voting with my feet a much more effective use of my time than attempting anything political in my home country)
- heavyset_go 3y ago> See also Bob Altemeyer on quantitatively tested ways of reducing "Authoritarian Follower" tendencies. Got more info on this?
- 082349872349872 3y agoThe Authoritarians Ch.7 pp 239-245 "Long-term Reductions in Authoritarianism: More Practical Solutions" https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Ishbg1AE3snak_yOTLK0hPsvy_4l6ew1/view?pli=1 https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Ishbg1AE3snak_yOTLK0hPsvy_4... > It’s not an argument you can win, especially if you win. (Couples who live together learn this about certain arguments.) > Instead, you’ll be amazed how bonding it is when four people wrestle an old washing machine out of the brown water that none of them could have managed alone. This is called a superordinate goal, and social psychologists can cite many studies that show it really does open doors between groups. Being an academic, he should have the relevant literature cites somewhere if you prefer primary sources.
- heavyset_go 3y agoThanks