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Ya, I think watching most of my exgfs age into their mid and late 30s single or just into the next 0.5-1 year relationship, makes me think something is wrong. I
by talldatethrow 3y ago
Ya, I think watching most of my exgfs age into their mid and late 30s single or just into the next 0.5-1 year relationship, makes me think something is wrong. I wouldn't really know it was a problem if every single one of them didn't cry in front of me at some point during or after our relationship about being upset they have to work forever, feel like they might miss out on kids, that guys don't want to settle down anymore, and so on. Obviously the guys are at fault too. We were all clueless in our teens and 20s and not told what we should have been. I suppose parents could tell you, or friends, but they haven't been. The church for the most part is still trying.
- jemmyw 3y agoI don't think religion is the major factor there. Losing religion is lagging behind these social changes. I mean, anecdotally, I'm not religious and my wife is fiercely anti-religions and we have 3 kids and she doesn't work. We just decided to step outside the rat race we felt we were in and lose some of the lifestyle people seemed to think was so important - moved away from the city, only had one car, didn't take overseas holidays. There are quite a few people in the area I'm in who have made the same choices, some are religious, some are not. And we're still in touch with plenty of folks who match what you describe and they don't want to give up the career/city/car/lifestyle. Again, some of those people are religious and some are not. You could make broad strokes about the relationship between religion and social culture but I think in your comment you have the relationship inverted. When you have religious freedom religions are an expression of the social culture of their members, they are not an enforcement of the social culture on their members.