The real item here is that ADHD threatens a nonADHDer's sense of identity and brings into question the existence of free will, effort, self discipline and self

The real item here is that ADHD threatens a nonADHDer's sense of identity and brings into question the existence of free will, effort, self discipline and self determination. ADHD is a real condition. People who have it suffer immensely from it. They don't have a sense of time. They don't have a sense of priority. They procrastinate tremendously. They are extremely forgetful and tend to get stuck in an unproductive rut. The moment they swallow a pill.. i.e Adderall, they stop being late. They turn in their assignments completely finished. They can remember better. They won't lose their jobs. They stop procrastinating that much. Basically, they get to be a functional human being. But, someone who doesn't have ADHD only has their own frame of reference to judge ADHD. People without ADHD also have a tendency to procrastinate. They also tend to be late if they are don't care about being on time. They don't feel the motivation to show up for work etc. And yet, despite not having the motivation they FORCE themselves to show up for work. Despite having a tendency to procrastinate they FORCE themselves to not procrastinate because they know the payoff. They won't be late because they CARE and they know it is DISRESPECTFUL to make the other person wait. Why can't you use a reminder on your iPhone, Google Calendar etc? is their retort. If you are forgetful why don't you write stuff down? Discipline is a muscle. The more you force yourself to use it the easier it gets the next time. ADHD isn't special. Even I feel like not doing things BUT I FORCE MYSELF TO DO IT. Why can't you? Instead, you are choosing to take the easier route by swallowing a pill. This is the equivalent of someone choosing to take steroids to build muscle instead of putting in the hard work at the gym. This is how a nonADHD person thinks. They are proud of working hard and they are proud of their accomplishments. Of doing hard things. Overcoming obstacles etc. But, when they see someone with ADHD struggle they just chalk it down to them being lazy. They don't understand that the ADHD brain is wired differently. Again, this is not their fault. Human beings cannot relate to anything that is outside of their direct experience.