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Is it surprising or unsurprising to see such amount of social anxiety in the comments?

by loceng 3y ago

punkspider 3y ago
For me it's surprising. Based on the regular discussions I read on here, I assume that most are accomplished and confident.
- macintux 3y ago
  On the Internet, nobody knows you’re a dog.
- praptak 3y ago
  You'd probably call me accomplished and maybe even confident (I learned to muster enough confidence to give a public talk) but I still have phone phobia.
CoastalCoder 3y ago
For me, commenting on HN is a low-risk activity: - Nobody knows who I am - If I'm attacked, I can usually write it off as random Internet people being jerks or having bad days. - I don't accidentally say stupid stuff because the clock is running out for a timely response. - If I say something rash or nasty, I can often delete it before many people read it.
- UltimateEdge 3y ago
  > I don't accidentally say stupid stuff because the clock is running out for a timely response. For me this is the biggest reason.
  - loceng 3y ago
    Worrying about reputation rather than character then? Do you give other people such considerations when they're speaking but not yourself, or do you judge other people (like you judge yourself) if you don't get everything 100% clear to someone even when there's inadequate time to do so? Perhaps needing to learn to forgive yourself for "looking stupid," when there's a reasonable reason that you realize if having enough time you could correct or clarify it; part of the extreme difficulty and hard work to grow when being a conscious individual who feels things strongly-cares a lot.
    - UltimateEdge 3y ago
      I am pretty sure I view both myself and others critically, especially when an assertion is made. In general, I just do not like a lot of situations which are time-limited. I have been this way for many years. Also, when I have nothing interesting to say, I would prefer to not say anything and listen instead. In real-life situations, I much prefer one-on-one conversations to groups. Not sure if that is a consequence of any of the above.
- thimkerbell 3y ago
  I want a feature where I can see any comments of mine that I deleted in the last 24 hrs. Just in case.

Is it surprising or unsurprising to see such amount of social anxiety in the comments?

by loceng 3y ago

Is it surprising or unsurprising to see such amount of social anxiety in the comments?

For me it's surprising. Based on the regular discussions I read on here, I assume that most are accomplished and confident.

macintux 3y ago
On the Internet, nobody knows you’re a dog.
praptak 3y ago
You'd probably call me accomplished and maybe even confident (I learned to muster enough confidence to give a public talk) but I still have phone phobia.

CoastalCoder 3y ago

For me, commenting on HN is a low-risk activity: - Nobody knows who I am - If I'm attacked, I can usually write it off as random Internet people being jerks or having bad days. - I don't accidentally say stupid stuff because the clock is running out for a timely response. - If I say something rash or nasty, I can often delete it before many people read it.

UltimateEdge 3y ago
> I don't accidentally say stupid stuff because the clock is running out for a timely response. For me this is the biggest reason.
- loceng 3y ago
  Worrying about reputation rather than character then? Do you give other people such considerations when they're speaking but not yourself, or do you judge other people (like you judge yourself) if you don't get everything 100% clear to someone even when there's inadequate time to do so? Perhaps needing to learn to forgive yourself for "looking stupid," when there's a reasonable reason that you realize if having enough time you could correct or clarify it; part of the extreme difficulty and hard work to grow when being a conscious individual who feels things strongly-cares a lot.
  - UltimateEdge 3y ago
    I am pretty sure I view both myself and others critically, especially when an assertion is made. In general, I just do not like a lot of situations which are time-limited. I have been this way for many years. Also, when I have nothing interesting to say, I would prefer to not say anything and listen instead. In real-life situations, I much prefer one-on-one conversations to groups. Not sure if that is a consequence of any of the above.
thimkerbell 3y ago
I want a feature where I can see any comments of mine that I deleted in the last 24 hrs. Just in case.