I actually agree with your first part, and as I said, its an increasing trend, not necessarily the most popular. But that still worries me. But I disagree when

I actually agree with your first part, and as I said, its an increasing trend, not necessarily the most popular. But that still worries me. But I disagree when you say women deciding to be dominated. I don't see how one can decide to be dominated. If we follow this argument that we can say that men and women in a China factory decided to work 16 hours a day, conveying the idea that there is nothing wrong with it.