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Why do you say that? I like it and would recommend it to anyone. Since I’m asking you to critique it I’ll go ahead and critique it myself, even though I’m over
by medler 3y ago
Why do you say that? I like it and would recommend it to anyone.
Since I’m asking you to critique it I’ll go ahead and critique it myself, even though I’m overall positive on it. It’s aimed mainly at middle-aged business owners who are used to getting what they want and are, well, assholes. As such, its main message is to be nice and try to see things from the other person’s perspective. That’s good advice for the target audience, but if an already-nice 16-year-old picks it up I fear they run the risk of thinking the advice is “be a doormat,” which is not a good idea. (I read one review by a young woman who said she read the book and became a doormat. Yikes. Don’t do that).
That one pitfall aside, the book is chock full of good advice and imo deserves its place as a highly recommended guide to better people skills.
- theusus 3y agoMy issue with the book is that it asks because to pretend that they are nice.
- partomniscient 3y agoIt should be titled "How to win friends and influence people by being insincere".
- reducesuffering 3y agoI’m conflicted because on one hand I think, “did you people even read the book?” And on the other, if multiple people have this experience, the book was not written well enough to have a lasting impression of its intentions. Carnegie specifically mentions in the book how you need to be sincere and genuinely cultivate interest in people.
- theusus 3y agoBy asking to be sincere. Yeah thanks