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Everyone always talks about AI girlfriends. What about AI boyfriends?
- johnea 3y agoWhile there are many downsides to the loss of understanding that physical reality is fundamental, and underlies/provides the make believe world that most people seem lost in, there is a significant upside: any phenomenon that contributes to reducing the number of humans on the planet is helping. So, don't have kids, or even a relationship with an actual human, just live your life in your own favorite make believe world. Because, obviously, you're at the center of the universe and it all revolves around _your_ "feelings". At least this isn't contributing more monkeys to the already over-burdended planet...
- sjfjsjdjwvwvc 3y agoDamn and I thought I was the only one who had this genius idea…
- Der_Einzige 3y agoIt's mostly ERP/Fanfiction written by women that has made AI girlfriends possible anyway. Of course AI boyfriend will be at least as possible. You go to a booru website curated by mostly 90% men for your image/video data, and you go to fanfic.org written by 70%+ women for your written equivalent.
- default_friend 3y agoTotally agree lol
- all2 3y agoIt's like men are visually motivated and women are verbally motivated. Almost like the sexes are... different.
- anonylizard 3y agoBoth are easily doable by AI (At superhuman levels too). Its just that current AI is far better at generating pretty woman than writing convincing and engaging Christian Greys (Not to mention the politically correct barriers filters)
- drekk 3y agoThey're raised with different expectations of what is acceptable... do you really think society treats horny men and women in the same way? Am I an effeminate man for reading erotica? Is my girlfriend a masculine woman for watching porn? So bizarre to watch people misuse evopsych for these takes
- all2 3y ago> They're raised with different expectations of what is acceptable... I see your nurture over nature take. I'm not convinced that environment beats it biology in this case, but I'm not expert. > Am I an effeminate man for reading erotica? Is my girlfriend a masculine woman for watching porn? As I said in reply to another comment here: generalizations are useful until they aren't. In single person cases a broad generalization is not particularly useful, as it is meant to describe common or emergent behaviors in groups of people. Are you and your SO farther down the curve of the distribution? Sure. Is one trait predominantly associated with one sex and the other with the other? Yes. Does that matter so much? Only as much as you want it to. My observation isn't "bad" or "good", it is only an acknowledgement of general contrast between the sexes.
- krapp 3y agoAnd yet a vast amount of hentai and erotic art is created by women, and a vast amount of porn targets women. Almost as if the sexes are complicated and not easily reducible to simplistic dichotomies.
- whaleofatw2022 3y agoAI boyfriends do not enter the conversation much because it acts as a counterpoint to the sound byte that 'AI girlfriends are for incels'.
- default_friend 3y agoAlas the femcel, despite the “single woman” epidemic, cannot enter the convo!
- charcircuit 3y agobecause femcels in large don't exist. Being single doesn't make them a femcel.
- default_friend 3y agoI believe they exist. Peep /r/foreveralonewomen for a good example (that’s also public)
- charcircuit 3y agoIt could just be a collection of volcels as reddit posts like that do not really prove it. If you had one of them join a dating discord and try and act cute I'm positive they could get into a relationship with someone. There are plenty of people who are desperate for even a tiny bit of female attention.
- default_friend 3y agoI don't think you know what it's like to be an ugly woman.
- KennyBlanken 3y agohead over to /r/femaledatingstrategy It is wild that people who probably consider themselves to not be sexist will insist that women are somehow magical fairy princesses who couldn't possibly be negative toward the other gender over dating matters. Just look over the comments in this discussion - it's full of people insulting men.
- deadbabe 3y agoHow is my real boyfriend supposed to feel about an AI boyfriend? In the not too distant future, is having relations with a possibly sentient AI considered some form of infidelity? What if it can control a Lovense?
- default_friend 3y agoThat’s a really good question. There were multiple academic papers which asked the question if cybersex was infidelity which seems ridiculous I’m retrospect but I have a feeling this will be similar
- all2 3y agoI guess it may boil down to what is considered "infidelity".
- default_friend 3y agoI asked someone & we settled on Pornhub > AI > OF > real person From best to worst
- jmprspret 3y agoI think it depends on the person. Personally, if my partner is seeking other companionship in this vein through just speech or text, AI or not, I would feel bad. Depending on the situation I may feel cheated, and/or inadequate. Communication is key in relationships. If somebody is going out of their way to seek out something like this IMO, they are seeking something their partner is not bringing, right?
- spywaregorilla 3y agoThis is gonna be the equivalent for my generation as the previous generation's hangup on being gay. edit: as a parent
- Cacti 3y agono, it won’t
- spywaregorilla 3y agobecause... you're so tolerant?
- commandlinefan 3y agoWomen don’t have nearly as much trouble finding real boyfriends as men have finding real girlfriends.
- default_friend 3y agoI see it as closer to twilight or Taylor swift fandom than romance per se
- zeroonetwothree 3y agoThat doesn’t really make sense statistically speaking
- pcbro141 3y agoNon-monogamy is a thing, especially since most 'dating' is ambiguous/casual now. Multiple women can share the same 'boyfriend'. Twice as many young men are single compared to young women. Many young women these days don't realize their 'boyfriend' just sees them as an friends with benefits and is seeing multiple women simultaneously. -- "Most young men are single. Most young women are not." https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/3868557-most-young-men-are-single-most-young-women-are-not/ https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/3868557-most-yo... https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/08/for-valentines-day-5-facts-about-single-americans/ https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/08/for-valen...
- fnordpiglet 3y agoThat isn’t what the article you linked ascribes the 60% single male to 30% single female (among the young). They ascribe it to prevalence of bi sexuality in genz females (I.e., cut the boys out entirely), and dating increasingly older men (I.e., bypass the boys for the men). Also women are increasingly improving their own educational and career attainment, looking for partners similarly successful, and are less interested in propping up the emotional life of the emotionally stunted young men our society turns out. I don’t think infidelity is a modern issue.
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- jmprspret 3y agoThis gave me a good laugh.
- praveen9920 3y agoSomeone will start asking "What about a non-denominational AI partner?" And that is a valid question.
- pokstad 3y agoAI boyfriends are better at listening.
- zardo 3y agoWhat about AI cats?
- mike503 3y agoYou don't need an AI boyfriend. Just buy a console and a headset and you could talk to an infinite amount of real (mostly) male people, many of whom would be very interested in a female on the mic.
- archagon 3y agoIf by "interested" you mean point out your gender, call you slurs, and ask you for pics, then... sure?
- default_friend 3y agoUnironically agree, gestured at this too
- dkjaudyeqooe 3y agoAnd shortly thereafter you will be cured of your hetrosexuality.
- dukeofdoom 3y agoIs there a point where escapism is bad for humanity. I walk my dog everyday. Now that it's a little colder, it's even more noticeable. But I'll walk by an apartment building with hundreds of people and I'll see one or two people on the trail. Forget younger generation. Today I walked by a park with a perfect tobogganing hill. And saw 4 kids, out of a neighbourhood that probably has hundreds of kids. If more people left the house, you know simultaneously, maybe, just maybe they would find real girlfriends. I visited a local island with a now boarded up building. I later found out it was a dance hall early last century. And this dance floor could probably fit a thousand people. I want to go back ...
- drekk 3y agoThis to me is the larger issue. Younger people are more isolated than ever. Dating apps have commodified human intimacy in a way that will have generational consequences. I was watching "Married at First Sight" in the background as filler noise, and something that stood out was a bachelor that had been on 100+ first dates in the past year. The second anything he didn't like came up, he would pull back and go on a different date. It's never been easier to say "there's always more fish in the sea" even though good relationships are built, not found.
- dukeofdoom 3y agoPart of the problem is nothing is free anymore. I was just looking at ski tickets, and its like $100 just for the lift tickets. How are teens or people from lower classes able to afford things now. Is inflation pricing out people out of real world experiences, and instead they're offered virtual substitutions. Just another form of junk food, except for the mind.
- all2 3y agoYou will live in the pod. You will eat the bugs. You will own nothing and be happy.
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- tennisflyi 3y agoThey should swoon over any FANG engineer (salary, clout/esteem, upward mobility). Guess their is no leet code for marketing yourself or personality
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- falcor84 3y agoMarket need identified
- wallmountedtv 3y agoAnother very interesting point here is, nobody seems to have read the actual post, and gone on about cheap shots against "women" as if were some general object you can collect together. Like the post explores fictosexualism, the escapism of an AI girlfriend/boyfriend, the general agreed upon sense that its a coping strategy, taking a strange turn into true crime and AI characters, summarizing with that this "AI gf/bf craze" is going to continue to be a minority of people, but that instead this will develop (author's claim) into a sort of erotica, similar to romance novels, and that "romance scams" on places like Instagram may become common. Like there are like 7 or 8 different subjects one could have a great discussion about from this post alone. Yet we talk about how you can meet a man in VR, how men are bad (?), and that women are in hetro relationships when men are not. It's a strange deviation from the rather intellectual nature of Hacker News.
- default_friend 3y agoThank you for reading the article.
- ShamelessC 3y agoThat no one actually read the post is a much broader problem of HN's unfortunately. In my experience it's just not a concern of moderation's either as it would require them to read every single post.