I can't speak for the couples you know, although you're trying a generalization that seems wrong, so it's worth saying that having a spouse to call family, to s

I can't speak for the couples you know, although you're trying a generalization that seems wrong, so it's worth saying that having a spouse to call family, to share your life with, in its fullness, transcends any short term hormonal reactions and pleasure. I'm 40, and it's interesting to me that culture evolved such that younger generations prefer pleasure as a life purpose; and yet younger generations seem to be pretty sad, many still childless and living alone or with their parents well into their 30s. I think this is a serious cultural issue. Pleasure does not give you purpose or long term happiness for that matter. Growing a family does give you purpose. I am not saying that people shouldn't get divorced, which can be wonderful. People shouldn't feel miserable in their home. But if you divorce 2 or 3 times, maybe it's time to consider that you're to blame and change behavior before it's too late.