> I've been surprised at how many of my peers were not interested in any type of marriage prep program when they were planning their own wedding There are a lo

> I've been surprised at how many of my peers were not interested in any type of marriage prep program when they were planning their own wedding There are a lot of lifestyles that don't want or even need that level of planning for marriage. Some people are just going through the motions blindly either out of guilt, obligation, desperation, or simply because they think their partner is smokin' hot and want to "lock that down". These would generally be less affluent people. Some others have such strict criteria that they know the planning is pointless if they aren't going to find anyone else. It just has to work and the pressure to make it so is beyond the two of them. Sometimes they also have more than enough resources available that their marriage doesn't need to be built on their own ability to work together or agree on much of anything. These would be very highly affluent people. Your situation sounds somewhere in between. Not everyone has a life whose success is built on discipline, deliberation, or personal choice. People also change and making firm decisions upfront is difficult. It's debatable whether they're "not ready for marriage" or if their lives are just so different from the "norm" that it's hard to understand.