What exactly is the author arguing there? After becoming fluent in irony and sarcasm, you won't 'experience' that asshole beating you up at recess as 'damaging'

What exactly is the author arguing there? After becoming fluent in irony and sarcasm, you won't 'experience' that asshole beating you up at recess as 'damaging'? I find it much more likely that the social punishment for being a bully greatly increases as the social structure builds, and it hits critical mass by the time children are 11-12 years old. The bullies then must become more subtle about their actions. I agree that teasing definitely has its benefits, but this author's portrait of teasing as an innocent victim just has me confused. Teasing is an extremely subjective social concept, and the same actions can be either teasing or bullying depending on the situation. If one of my friends comes up behind me and tackles me playfully (I'm a rugby player, so this isn't an uncommon occurrence), that's just an everyday part of life--but if a stranger took me to the ground while I was walking down the street, I wouldn't be so forgiving. It's up to the teasee when teasing becomes bullying, and I think it's a great idea for schools to have policies against bullies. If you enjoy it, it's not stalking, but if it is, you need to be able to get a restraining order.